fiarra | 4 more days...

...and i dont have to deal with this....

Quite honestly.. I'm sick of my mom and her mind games. Her random turns of temper and refusal to talk to or look at me. Take tonight. I politely inform her that I will be going out at 7pm to hang out with Susana and Phil (who goes to school in Ohio and who I havent seen in months). She instantly informs me curtly that they have gone and bought fish for everyone and that it won't be ready until past 7. I then propose that I deal with the food for myself. She flips out about not being there for dinner.

Fine. Phil calls me anyway to move everything to 7:30. At 7:05 I go out and see salad and corn on the table. I then ask if I should just eat since I will be going soon. Again she flips out, accusing me of not wanting to be home, making my friends more important than family. Lots of stuff about wanting a nice family dinner. (those never happen anymore.. someone always gets angry before we're done with salad). Then she yells that she doesn't care anymore and that I should "eat and get out". I offer to call Phil and move everything to 8. She glares at me, says she doesn't care and to get out and walks away.

I call Phil and move everything to 8.
Me: I called Phil, I'm not leaving till 8. Do you need help with dinner.
My only answer is a glare and her back as she walks away.

*sigh*

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She needs meds.

Or horse tranquilizers.

But I'm stil a fan of the good old fashioned cuntpunt.

Have you ever thought that maybe the reason that you and your mom don't get along is because you are both so similar. From reading this post I know exactly what that glare your mom gave you looks like even though I have never met your mother. I have seen you glare and act just like that over the past couple of years that I have known you. Directed mainly at Pat but also a few other people. Then again that is because most interactions I have with you are when Pat is present. Back to my point, you and your mother are very similar in how you have described her and in how I have viewed you to be. You might not be exactly the same but in your attitudes with what you have said, seems identical to how you can be. I can imagine that interaction being reversed and you acting exactly that way to someone else. You may want to think about that. It is highly probably that if you put yourself in that place and thought of what would make you happy and then did that, then your mother would end up happy.

all of that is certainly something i've thought about in the past. i know i'm not innocent myself of acting that way towards other people. it's increasingly evident that people are the result of their raising. with that being said, i've been trying to not do things like that. when i catch myself doing it, i internally curse myself for it.

what can i say. it's something of a work in progress. and with regards to the last statement of doing what would make my mom happy - that totally defeats the purpose of trying to make myself happy too, now doesnt it?

Its good to consider the feelings of others, but if you're doing something that will make someone else happy, but makes your life a prison well... as you said. You put it more eloquently Lina. Concise-like.

Not fully. It might be possible for you both to be happy (not sure on that but it might be). Plus it would at least ease things some and result in less bad feelings/glares/avoidance. Whether it is possible for you both to be happy is something that I don't know, you would know that better. In this case when you told her you were going out at 7 and she said that she got fish and it wouldn't be ready till 7, you could have said okay and that you would call up whoever and push your plans back some. If you all rarely have a family dinner and your mom went and tried to make one by going out and getting fish then I could see why she would get a little upset (though she over reacted). Now, when it comes to fish you generally buy an amount so that you use the whole thing because it really can't be left long as left overs. It would have been better on her part if when she went to get the fish she informed you of it so that you could plan accordingly. This was the first failure in communication but will be a hard one to address. Now when you said you would take care of your own food the second failure happened. You failed to realize the fact that you buy fish for a certain amount and you really have to use it that day. Failing to realize this you said you would take care of your own food were as your mom had went out and bought it (depending what type of fish it can sometimes be a bit pricey). Her reaction to blow it out of proportion instead of addressing the problem and then to avoid the problem. Then everything really starts to spiral. All this from one simple failure in communication... to bad that first one can be a bitch to change.

Now of course I am working all under the assumption that there was a solution that would leave you both happy. I don't know your mom and so for all I know the mere fact that you said you were going out even without saying you would take care of your own food may have been enough to anger her.

(if this post doesn't make much sense, know that it is because I am starting to get tired and probably should be getting more sleep then I am (6 hours a night is fine but over the course of 2 weeks it starts to drain on ya)

Dain, as logical as all that may be, logic never works if your mother is hispanic. I speak from experience, because I know exactly what she's talking about. Its almost guaranteed, like some sort of law, that no matter what she said or did, her mother would have gotten angry about something.

Thay may seem pretty generalized, but out of all the people I know, including myself, that has a hispanic mother - not a single one of them understands logic. And not a single one of them is all that sane.

Exactly. Logic eludes them. It's not fun.

so your both saying that Hispanic women are not logical? Rick will be pleased that there are some people that admit it.

4 more days... and you have to deal with ResNet. Gleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!! :D (Big Fake Smile)

lol i don't mind dealing with RezWeb. even when things are strange, I can always find some twisted logic behind it all. i like that.

to be honest, logic rarely has anything to do with human interaction at all. To think that would be to assume that people are rational, straight thinking creatures who are governed by logic. I think we can all agree that isn't the case.

true enough.

...who is this?

That last anonymous one was me sorry lina ^^;

Maybe if she knew a day beforehand it would've been different.

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